Raleigh area NC is home. We do update our location to reflect travel, so you might see us listed in other areas when or both of us are (or will soon be) visiting somewhere else. We: - have been together for around a decade - have never been strictly monogamous in all of the time we've known each other - are poly and generally date separately - will happily play together in the right circumstances - are basically looking for mutual attraction and fun with people that try to be decent humans (more on our definition of 'decent humans' in the "qualities we're looking for" section) - got married in early with no shift in our dynamic or limits/boundaries (his nd marriage, her st) - are both pansexual (he leans somewhat more toward gynosexual) - are both proudly self-described sluts - are disease free and regularly tested - value consent and expect consent (and the withdrawal of consent) to be fully respected with no questions asked and no further discussion necessary - both smoke cigarettes - neither is anti-; of us refrains or professional reaosns - are open to the potential for relationships if they develop, but are not going to tolerate having our relationship threatened - are not going to continue to engage if we feel like our (individual or collective) involvement is threatening someone else’s relationship - DO understand being discrete for professional reasons and will absolutely respect that - do NOT condone or tolerate cheating (because we're nice we’ll usually just ignore requests to date or play from anyone who needs to be “discrete” for reasons related in any way to their failure to communicate in their own relationship(s), but will % out you to your partner if you lie to us and we find out) He (GratefulEight, GE): - Is open to dating and/or play - Has been particularly intrigued with swinging since late high school - Skilled and generous, very interested in his partners' pleasure - Main concern in any scenario is "everyone consents and is comfortable & having a good time". - Highly driven by being intellectually attracted to people and situations - Context and mental stimulation play at least as large a role in his interest & arousal as looks or physical sensations (Example: porn with average-looking real people and a hot premise is WAY more interesting to him than the “conventionally ‘hot' pornstars get it on" variety) - Likes watching & being watched ALOT ;-) (her with others and more broadly real people performing real sex acts in general; almost anyone, doing almost anything consensual) - soft-swap or soft —\> full scenarios are appealing - REALLY loves being watched (Seriously though…invite him to a city rooftop orgy surrounded by other tall buildings full of potential voyeurs & he might tell you he's now able to die a happy man! 😜) - Loves to play with couples (as a 'bi male unicorn’, bull for hotwife or stag/vixen couple, depending; he has quite a bit of experience in this area, going back some ish years; he's not opposed to participating in a $consensual] gang-bang scenario) - Enjoys sharing (sharing her with others or teaming up with her to share singles or couples) - Is very curious to further explore bondage and has some experience with CNC play (For bondage: both as the person in restraints and as the applying them; NOTE--these would take TIME to be acceptable; nobody's tying anyone up or doing any sort of CNC play the first couple times we meet) - If you're specifically looking for someone interested in something else feel free to ask him about it and don't be surprised if he's enthusiastically into or about exploring it. - Has never run across a (consensual) group sex dynamic he's not at least somewhat interested in (exception: male-only groups aren't particularly intriguing without a REALLY good intellectually attractive premise; he's a horny pansexual slut, but does still lean toward gynosexual after all). - NOTE—this does not mean there are no sexual ACTIVITIES he’s uninterested in; there are. Specifically, if it involves breaking the skin or utilizing sexually anything that typically is deposited in a toilet, he is not interested. - When sexual contact with other penis-having humans does happen he tends to be more a bottom than a top when it comes to penetrative activities, but could be accurately described as vers; he is happy and enthusiastic whether giving or receiving oral - In playing with couples or mixed groups involving straight guys he is, as needed, equally comfortable existing as the horny pansexual slut he is or toning down the not-strictly-heterosexual stuff to essentially nonexistent for the comfort of a "no gay stuff" straight guy She (GingerCoated, GC): - Is very cerebral in her evaluation and expression of attraction (especially initially with new people & when still fully clothed); - Mental stimulation and overall physical+personality attraction play a large role in her interest (or lack thereof) for any given situation. This could be mistaken as aloof or disinterested initially, when holistic attraction has not had time to develop - Finds a person’s voice to be an important part of her attraction or lack thereof - Is... damn near insatiable--but only with a skilled partner. (GE: “I’ve seen her orgasm so many times in a row that they all blur together into a state of being where they’re just perpetual until the end of sex. I’ve also had her look over at me and roll her eyes when she was bored by a guy’s ineffective thrusting and just wanted to get to the part where someone would actually fuck her properly.”). She has, however, experience enough with the less-skilled variety that she is a bit choosy about who she plays with. - Can be a bit of a size queen…to a point (GE's just-over- inches seems to be the sweet spot; much larger is significantly less pleasant for her and much smaller has typically been somewhat inadequate equipment unless utilized by a VERY skilled partner). - Is very skilled with her mouth and THOROUGHLY enjoys giving oral (GE: “Seriously, if you have a nice dick she may not be able to keep her mouth OFF it.”) - Is switchy, so these aren’t set in stone, but she is more often submissive toward males and dominant toward females) - Is GE’s collared sub. This means: .) She is under his protection and he will prevent her being harmed by any means necessary. He is a very chill wife-sharing hippie, BUT when her wellbeing is threatened he’s…we’ll say “not that”. .) DO NOT grab her collar without explicit permission. If he is present in the room, ask him. If he is not in the room, ask her. She has been trained to know the correct answer. Do not assume that because it is there it is available to be used as your handle—she does not belong to you. .) Disregarding the above inevitably ends poorly and is not recommended.. That said… the BDSM aspect of our dynamic is not something that is requisite to engage with apart from the above—she retains her autonomy and makes her own decisions—but it is important to explain at least as much as we shared above in case someone is unaware of the meaning or implications of the collar.

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