Turning the Tide: How to Ask for a MMF Threesome

My friends are used to me asking them about sex. I always tell them I’m doing research, which is true, and I would never use any of their information without their permission. One of them joked that I only pretended to be an erotic fiction writer, that I was really gathering information to use in a blackmail scheme during my golden years.

“I’m not paying for your cruises,” she said before she told me about her younger, wilder years.

The questions I ask cover a variety of things, and I never try to force an answer. When it comes to MMF threesomes, I’ve talked with many people. Quite a few of my female friends won’t admit to being in bed with more than one person at a time.

The males, however, are a different story. They are happy to boast that they’d been with two women at once, and had a great time doing it.

But when I asked about being with a woman and a man, they would shake their heads emphatically and said, “Nope, never, not gonna happen.”

“Why?”

“Because I’m not gay. I’m not touching another guy’s junk.”

No matter how many times I put forth the question, they were always emphatic in their answers.

So, does that mean your man would never participate in a MMF threesome? Not necessarily…

Exploring the situation

Most people, I believe, fantasize about taking part in a threesome. But deciding on the participants is where things can get tricky.

Men say they want FFM. One friend told me it was every man’s fantasy to watch two women together. When I asked why he said it was because it was every man’s fantasy that the women would stop mid-play and said, “Come and join us.”

“It would make me macho,” one man said. “I was able to get two women into bed at the same time. I’m a stud.”

“Don’t you consider the woman?”

“Sure, she’s having fun, or else she wouldn’t do it.”

That is probably true, but I know of a few ladies who want to be with two men at once, for many reasons. But also for the reason that the men discussed. They want to see the guys together, and have them stop mid-play and say, “Come and join us.”

So why is it the men get the fantasy, and the ladies do not?

Well, there are various reason.

What’s good for the goose

Do an Internet search on MMF threesomes and how to get a man to participate and you won’t find many hits. The reason I listed above is one of the most heard ones, but it’s not the only thing my male friends said.

There is the whole “size thing.”

No matter how many times you tell a man it’s not the size that matters, most of the still believe it.

“What if he’s bigger than I am?” one friend asked. “I don’t want my girlfriend to be thinking about him when she and I are together again. And, there’s the whole thing of asking a friend to bed, and it being weird afterward.”

“But you’re okay with asking your girlfriend to be with another woman?”

“Well yeah, cause it’s fun.”

“How do you know the other’s not fun unless you try?”

We’ve all heard that at one point in time. You don’t know if you’re going to like it unless you try it. Usually it was about peas on your plate when you were a child.

When I asked that question they immediately shut down.

So, I’ve done some thinking…

If you and your boyfriend have discussed this, and you’ve been shut down, there are a few things you might try.

The first thing you should do is not get defensive; all that does is fuel the fire and make people angry.

Instead, leave it alone for a while, and come back to it. When you approach the conversation again, tell him your reasons. Just as he wants to be with two women at one time, you want to know what it feels like to be able to attract two men at once. Plus, tell him there are things you need more than one man for, and the idea of using a BOB, while fun, is not what you had in mind.

Then, repeat for him one more time that you don’t care about the size of anyone’s package. Remind him that you’re with him, and not the other guy. Tell him that’s how you look at it when you have a FFM ménage.

Tell him things don’t have to heat up quickly. You don’t expect what you might consider veteran sex acts during the MMF threesome. Just like other sexual experiences, you start slow and work your way up. Once again, you don’t know if you’ll like something until you try it. Remind him, gently, that you’ve tried the FFM ménage. Don’t use it as blackmail, just say you were willing to try something new, and now you want to try something really new.

Part of the MMF threesome conversation needs to be about trust. If you’re inviting someone into your bedroom as part of sexual experimentation, there is a trust there where you can say, once again, “This is about sex, not about relationships. We’re having fun, not inviting someone into our lives.”

You also need to be selective in your choices. Ask a friend who you think might be interested, and discuss it between the three of you. Discussing and MMF threesome might be awkward at first, but as you discuss things, and what might take place, chances are the three of you will be aroused by the idea. Let them know this is not a permanent thing. That is, unless the three of you decide the fun times can turn into more times.

In that case, eat those peas and enjoy it. But remember to talk with each other and be honest.

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Melinda Barron
Melinda Barron is a multi-published erotic author specializing in BDSM and menage stories. You can find her work on Loose Id, Resplendence Publishing and Blushing Books.

2 Comments on Turning the Tide: How to Ask for a MMF Threesome

Terry said : Guest Report Subscribe 4 months ago

My FWB stayed attached to her ex. I said fine but have sex with him 1st so I can check that out. I Love licking her with his cum inside her. That is the 3 some I want. Yes I would take him in my mouth...

smdick5 said : Guest Report Subscribe 4 months ago

I would love a MMF threesome. When I was younger I got to try a FFM threesome with two Ladies I knew well and it was incredible. But in reality a woman can handle two men better then a man can handle two women. But with the right people I think both are very hot and exciting.

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