BDSM 101: Basic Terminology

For those newly exposed the world of BDSM, learning and understanding all the terms and acronyms associated with this diverse lifestyle can be daunting.

Whether reading the SwingTowns Non-Monogamy Lifestyle Blog, or socializing with kinksters and fetishists in the SwingTowns community, the numerous terms and acronyms associated with the BDSM lifestyle can be intimidating to the uninitiated. Are you one of those readers who wish someone would just give you a crash course on basic BDSM terminology? SwingTowns is here to help!

Bondage/Discipline—Dominance/Submission—Sadism/Masochism
B/D—D/S—S/M
BDSM

Bondage
A physical restraint placed on a person or body part to hinder movement. For example, Breast Bondage.

Discipline
The development, correction, and training of a submissive to abide by the rules and regulations set by a Dominant.

Dominant
Also known as a Dom (male) or Domme (female). The position of control granted to a person over the actions and behavior of a submissive.

Submissive
Also known as a sub. The yielding role one takes when control and authority has been relinquished to a Dominant.

D/s
Acronym representing the consensual relationship dynamic formed between a Dominant and a submissive.

Switch
A person who can find pleasure and satisfaction in both a dominant role and a submissive role.

Sadist
A person who enjoys and/or receives sexual gratification from delivering pain to another.

Masochist
A person who receives enjoyment and/or sexual gratification from experiencing pain.

Vanilla
People who prefer to engage in conventional and/or mainstream sexual behavior.

Consent
The agreement permitting approved participants to engage each other in BDSM activities.

Hard Limit
An activity that a person will not do.

SSC
An acronym for Safe, Sane, and Consensual, which are the “common principles guiding relationships and activities” used in the BDSM community.

Dungeon
Also known as a play area. An equipped location that hosts assorted BDSM activities.

Scene
The stage, setting, and space where BDSM interactions occur.

Safeword
A word used to stop a BDSM scene.

Dungeon Monitor
A person who supervises a play area to ensure rules are followed.

Fetish
Sexual arousal and gratification received from nonsexual objects, activities, attributes and/or stimuli.

Kink
Uncommon sexual concepts, activities, and practices.

RACK
An acronym for Risk-Aware Consensual Kink and/or Risk-Accepted Consensual Kink used “to describe a philosophical view that is generally permissive of certain risky sexual behaviors, as long as the participants are fully aware of the risks.

Ageplay
Consenting adults in the BDSM lifestyle who choose to portray someone younger or older in order to reinforce a certain relationship dynamic. For example, a teacher/student relationship.

Non-Monogamy
Non-Monogamy is a polyamory relationship dynamic that includes swingers, couples in open relationships or open marriages, and/or polygynandry family units.

Want to learn more?

Read: Kink and Fetish: Is there a difference? and Popular Kinks and Fetishes: Which Is Your Favorite?

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1 Comment on BDSM 101: Basic Terminology

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