The right kind of single man

It is well known that the single man is a "dime a dozen" in the swinger world. Most clubs or sites charge extra or refuses entry to them. The reason for this is mainly the fact that most of the couples in the lifestyle are aiming for experiences with other couples or possibly a bisexual female, but the attitude of interested single men can also play a huge role in why no one is interested.

I think its safe to say that most couples have been approached by a single male saying similar things to;

"She's hot, do you guys play separate?"

"You two looking something long and thick to fill you up?"

"I'm horny let me watch you on cam."

"Is this m or f?" and when the answer is both or male they end the conversation without a word.

The list goes on with what us couples may see or hear from the WRONG type of single man looking for intimacy with a couple. The point of initially raising this subject is to let single men know that a lot of couples ARE interested, we just need to be approached properly and respectfully.

We can only speak from our experience meeting singles and in our case the above comments will only get a "not interested, goodbye." or if even more offensive further action in hopes that no other couple has to deal with them.

This being said we have also made great connections with the RIGHT kind of single man. The person who offers a respectful compliment and from the beginning expresses interest in being with a couple not just one side of the pair. He is the kind of person that asks questions about guidelines and no go areas of playing. He offers to send a picture instead of demanding an exchange of photo's. There are many positive things men can do to interest a couple, these were just a few examples.

In our opinion if the single men, on sites like ST and in other places that involve the lifestyle, were more respectful from the very start they would get more responses as well as not scare away potential couples from the idea all together.

So for you single men looking to spice things up with a couple, respect both the individual male and females you approach as well as the WE that makes the pair of them exactly what you are looking for in the first place.