Are you Poly or a Swinger?

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Are you poly, swinger or something in between? What’s the difference?

Swingers are non-monogamous people who engage in sex with partners outside of their primary relationship. Wikipedia defines polyamory as “the practice of, or desire for, intimate relationships involving more than two people, with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. It has been described as ‘consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy.'”

There are many swingers who have strict rules against any type of emotionally intimate relationship outside of their primary relationship. These are rules in place to preserve the primary relationship, but how effective are rules in governing our emotions?

In my opinion, everyone is poly, or at the very least has the capacity to be poly. Think about it. Have you ever intimately known someone who loved one person and only that one person for the rest of their life?

This opinion of mine has been reinforced by 17 years of being a part of the SwingTowns team. If a member decides to delete their account at SwingTowns, we ask them what their reason is for leaving. Guess what the number one reason is for people who classify themselves as swingers… they found a special someone or a special couple and they just aren’t looking to meet anyone new. So their relationship with this other person or people has expanded to include something more (meaningful, maybe?) than just sex… not that there’s anything wrong with casual sex of course!

So, what do you think? Are you poly, a swinger or something in between?

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9 Comments on Are you Poly or a Swinger?

Orallyyours269 said : Guest Report Subscribe 5 months ago

We are swingers, not poly. My husband and I view poly as being connected more closely with other lovers. Swingers are more about less complicated interactions (sounds crass but more into it for the recreational sex.). As always to each his own view!

RanchoCpl said : Guest Report Subscribe 6 months ago

I would put us firmly in the other category. We are swingers but not the one night stand kind of thing. We enjoy the company of others in and out of the bedroom. We love the idea of a relationship as a ploy group but like swinging open communication is the key. We had a girlfriend once upon a time and it was great, we would welcome having a steady girlfriend again. just finding some one who is the right fit.

Muff said : Guest Report Subscribe 6 months ago

I myself am one that completely believes in Poly and would love to have 2 or possibly 3 more women around. I happen to enjoy a woman's body as much as, if not more, than my husband , whom by nature is a narcissist. Of course he seems to think i'm nuts so where is he coming up with this nonsense? I's his narcissistic, Beside who could ask for more than to have other women in the home. If my husband was having sex with one, we know cause they hear everything. The thing that really makes it work is truth and open communication and I suppose with me and him as well we love sex and I absolutely just love eating pussy out, starting with by us girls watch them touch, feel and hopefully lick and suck in the moist sensual wet and favorite place I have. I love, love, love puu

Bellissima77 said : Guest Report Subscribe 8 months ago

I think that this is an excellent question to ask of your other partners as your relationship develops. In my situation, I am definitely a Poly... I would love to have a household full of inter related lovers that moved through each others rooms easily. Almost like a lovers commune where we all contributed to the running of a household or several and each of us was able to explore each other. My husband on the other hand is a swinger he wants to ensure that when we lay our heads down to sleep at night, we are together and alone in our bed. He is not against building emotional connections with our partners, but it is a shallower emotional connection. This may change if he starts to build emotional connections with his paramours or if we make a strong connection with a couple we are swinging with but at this point that is the way.

said : Guest Report Subscribe 8 months ago

I FEEL the difference between swing and Polly is that swing involves the couple in the action ( together, at the same time). Like going to a swing club or party TOGETHER. Mabe separate rooms, but there together. Poly, on the other hand, is going out to play independently. " Hon, I'm going to the club tonight. Wanna CUM ?". " No thanks, I think I'll stay home tonight !"

Bling8585 said : Guest Report Subscribe 8 months ago

I would classify ourselves as swingers, although the idea of having a few couples that we share a relationship outside of swinging does not makes us Poly.

MandL1995 said : Guest Report Subscribe 8 months ago

We are poly...we want the on going relationship with a select couple(s).

Megamike408 said : Guest Report Subscribe 8 months ago

We are swingers and not polys.

Jennifer said : Guest Report Subscribe 9 months ago

Poly is umbrella that covers. Swinging, non-monogomy, open, threesome, etc anything that isnt limited to two committed partners.

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